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Service Dog PSA

While I wouldn’t exactly call myself a Facebook or social media junkie (at least not yet), I have to admit there have been times when I really appreciate the power of the platform. This is one of those times. I was on Facebook and came across this post: https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=10156094239527199&set=a.10150100961307199&type=3&theater

The morale of this story is simple: if a service dog approaches you without his/her person, follow the dog. They have been trained to get help when needed, so pay attention.

Personally, as a someone with disabilities and former service dog user, I have several stories of how my service dogs have helped me out of tight situations by summoning help. I use a wheelchair for mobility and my first one tipped over more times than I can count. There was one time in particular that I was going up a driveway because there was no curb cut and it tipped, trapping me under it. My dog, Sam (my boy before Max) didn’t have to go far for help. He brought a good Samaritan back who lifted the chair off me. He didn’t want me to move, in case I was seriously injured, but I felt fine, got up and went on my way.

My thanks go out to my beloved Sam as well as to the human who helped me.

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Are You Enough?

Recently, I was reminded rather forcefully about why I miss Max so much and I had to tell you about it. A member of my family is going through a rough time right now and I’m trying very hard to be supportive. Someone else asked me this question, or more specifically to enumerate what I bring to our relationship. My internal reaction was one of shock, particularly since I’m rather close to the asker. Later on, I got curious about my own thinking and actions. Do I believe I am enough? Do I act that way?

Having a physical disability isn’t easy. Opportunities can be limited, especially for those of us trying hard to contribute our gifts, or to simply earn a ‘seat at the table’ in order to provide for our families and plan for the future. Despite these trying realities, what we think about ourselves is critically important.

For me, that’s where Max was most valuable. He looked at me like I could do anything and I realize now that I believed him. I was enough just as I am.

Perhaps that changed after he died. I don’t know and it is something I have to ask myself. All I do know for sure is that I no longer have Max’ support now that he is gone. I’d like to think that I’m enough. That just by being the supportive person I am, I contribute mightily to any relationship.

For me, the answer to this question is I bring myself to the relationship. Max may not be here anymore, but what he taught me when alive still holds true. I am enough, just as I am. I can do anything I want to do.

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