Being Alone

I can only speak for myself.

I've been thinking about being alone a lot recently and about mistakes I have made. All of this introspection has led me to one definite conclusion: listen carefully to advice from loved ones because they care about you but don't take it unless you know, KNOW that it is  right for you.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not blaming all of my problems on bad advice. I am definitely responsible for the bad things that have happened to me lately and my only point is, because advice can alter actions, be careful with it.

That got me to thinking about the worst advice that I ever received and took from a loved one. It was to ask for help. Those of you who know me, know that I have cerebral palsy which significantly impacts my ability to walk and balance. Although I am ambulatory, I am also prone to falling and on this occasion was pretty seriously injured requiring a visit to the emergency room.

My loved one advised me to ask for help in walking before I slipped. My loved one's point was that the able-bodied people around me could protect me, doing what I wanted faster and better than I could with my physical limitations.

I took this advice to heart and henceforth asked for help whenever I perceived a need. What I didn't realize was that I was burning loved ones out and reducing my own abilities.

Through this process of introspection, I've now reached the conclusion that I'm far better off doing as much as I can for myself even if I hurt myself. To those who are burned out, I am profoundly sorry, wish you all the happiness you can find and hope the damage I caused you is of short duration. To my phenomenal network of supporters, thank you for supporting me in the way I would like to be supported. Especially to my Mom and Dad, you are the reason I can do so much, you taught me how to take care of myself expecting much from me. Thank you so much and may I always do you proud.

Again, I can only speak for myself. What is true for you depends on your situation. It is your life and we are here to help you decide what you need to live it to the fullest.

What does this have to do with service or companion animals? Good question. Everything. A large portion of our group is dedicated to helping you figure out what's right for you. Maybe what's right is getting another animal but maybe not. It's entirely up to you and it will be our pleasure to support you in making this decision or any others.